WHEN A RELATION ENDS
"If you cannot find peace within yourself, you will never find it anywhere else".
—Marvin Gaye
Where do we get the idea that if a relationship or a marriage ends, we have somehow failed? The ending of a relationship is not a sign of personal failure. On the contrary, it is a courageous step. It is a loving gesture. It is a responsible move. It takes courage to admit when a relationship is not working. When we are locked in a relationship that is not working. When we are locked in a relationship that is not working, it can be very painful. We must love ourselves and our mates enough not to want them to stay in a situation that is causing pain. When we are willing to take personal responsibility and the necessary steps to free ourselves from the pain of a relationship, we are showing a willingness to grow. Looking at things from this perspective, how can we consider ourselves failures? There comes a time in every situation when difficult decisions must be made. Making the decisions may make us feel miserable; not to make them is what makes us miserable failures."I am not a failure. I am ending a relationship"
"If you cannot find peace within yourself, you will never find it anywhere else".
—Marvin Gaye
Where do we get the idea that if a relationship or a marriage ends, we have somehow failed? The ending of a relationship is not a sign of personal failure. On the contrary, it is a courageous step. It is a loving gesture. It is a responsible move. It takes courage to admit when a relationship is not working. When we are locked in a relationship that is not working. When we are locked in a relationship that is not working, it can be very painful. We must love ourselves and our mates enough not to want them to stay in a situation that is causing pain. When we are willing to take personal responsibility and the necessary steps to free ourselves from the pain of a relationship, we are showing a willingness to grow. Looking at things from this perspective, how can we consider ourselves failures? There comes a time in every situation when difficult decisions must be made. Making the decisions may make us feel miserable; not to make them is what makes us miserable failures."I am not a failure. I am ending a relationship"
1 comment:
Wow, what a simple way to tell the truth! Only I wish it were easy for us to be honest to ourselves. I have been amplified by reading your posts on relationships. It makes much more sense for me to hear it from you than to think it myself!
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